Barbados Pride: LGBTI people march for their rights. | Photo: Supplied Why do we need Barbados Pride? Well, walking down the street is a traumatic experience for many LGBTI Barbadians.
At first glance, Barbadian LGBTI people appear to have relatively safe, full lives. People often ask us: ‘Why don’t you just live your lives and stop fighting for rights, no one is troubling you?’
But I have experienced verbal abuse ranging from threats of sexual violence to shouts of ‘death!’ and also physical assaults and fights.
Truth is, physical violence against our LGBTI bodies pales in comparison to some other countries. There are many places where you could be killed just because you venture into the wrong neighbourhood.
However, when you look beyond the proverbial curtain, it is clear that LGBTI Barbadians face psychological and financial abuse on a daily basis. In particular, gender non-conforming and trans individuals suffer an even greater burden.
Many of us have been put out from our homes and disowned by family members. This very often leaves us without any of the basic support mechanisms which humans need to survive.I have personally lived through psychological abuse and sexual assault because of my sexual orientation.Years of psychological torture lead to […]
Linda Harvey Founded Mission America in 1995 A Christian radio host has claimed gay people are God’s ‘punishment’ to the world for abortions.
Linda Harvey, a founder of hate group Mission America, said God is ‘corrupting’ our living children for ‘killing’ fetuses.
She also branded gay couples as engaging in ‘dead-end, degrading passions’ at the Bringing America Back To Life conference. Radio host: Gay people are God ‘punishing’ the world for abortions
‘One has to consider, first of all, the horrifying possibility that this complete sexual and human identity meltdown could be an aspect of God’s judgment on us for aborting millions of our children,’ she said, according to Right Wing Watch.
‘It is very possible that as an instrument of God’s judgment, he is using the punishment to come on us through our children, the corruption of our children.’
Harvey added: ‘The same-sex pair purposely avoids vaginal intercourse in favor of everything but.‘God has given us a quick way to assess the worth of two males or two females; these avoidance and substitution relationships involve not literal or symbolic life creation, but the opposite.‘They involve the waste functions of the body or empty relations with spilled sperm or substitutes for the […]
Dustin Lance Black and Tom Daley on their wedding day You might think that young gay men are all about the single life and dating apps.
But it turns out that polyamory and open relationships are not the dream, it’s monogamy.
Researchers have found surprising new relationship trends among gay men aged 18 to 39.
Lanz Lowen and Blake Spears, a non-monogamous couple for 36 years, looked into the experience of other same-sex couples.
The pair says: ‘There wasn’t any roadmap and we assumed long-term couples might offer valuable perspectives and hard-earned lessons.’
They surveyed a range of men, both single and in relationships. 42% of the respondents were single, the other 58% in relationships.Of those in relationships, 632 identified as monogamous, 152 identified as ‘monogamish’, and 48 identified as non-monagamous. 92% of young gay men want to get married The study found 92% wanted to get married one day. 90% stated they were seeking monogamous relationships.Half of the men identified as being in long-term monogamous relationships.Previous studies have found two-thirds of couples who have been together for five years or more are in an open relationship.But however, more younger men are seeking monogamy. Marriage is the ‘latest milllennial trend’ Marriage was equated […]
Taking a walk in the woods at Forest Holidays. | Photo: Scott Nunn. Forest Holidays offers everything you need for a therapeutic getaway – a luxurious cabin with a hot tub, a taste of the wild and a fully-equipped kitchen to prepare the local gourmet food.
We headed to Thorpe Forest to check out one of the nine Forest Holidays locations dotted around Britain.
The concept is the same in all of them. You get to immerse yourself in Britain’s beautiful woodlands in complete luxury. Inside the Forest Holiday lodges
The lodges are cleverly positioned so you don’t overlook your neighbors and can enjoy peace and privacy.
The best feature of all the cabins is outside – the terrace and hot tub. As soon as you arrive you’ll want to sink yourself into the hot water with a plastic glass (safety first) of prosecco in hand. Then just lie there and look up at the trees. In the hot tub at Forest Holidays. If you are anything like us, you’ll still be lying there through the sunset and find yourself staring up at the Milky Way.
Beside the hot tub, the terrace is so completely integrated with forest that trees grow through […]
Katya returns to the public eye The performer behind Katya, from RuPaul’s Drag Race, went to rehab after quitting drag.
Brian McCook, the beloved star of All Stars 2, season 7 and The Trixie and Katya Show, relapsed in Australia after All Stars 2 last year.
He continued to do meth and suffered a ‘complete total psychotic break from reality’.
McCook confirmed he was detained by police this year.
Landlords asked to leave him to leave his home in Los Angeles for being a disturbance to others on drugs.
He also had a heart attack at home brought on by exhaustion.‘I couldn’t tell what was real or not real,’ he said, saying he suffered from hallucinations.McCook said he hit ‘rock bottom’ after a loved one almost put a restraining order against him. Katya: ‘I thought I just had a drug problem.’ ‘I wasn’t being paid enough,’ he said, explaining why he quit drag.‘I didn’t have enough time to sleep.’He first returned to his mother’s home in Massachusetts for a week. But then he still got high. He then went to Serenity Care Center in Surprise, Arizona.‘It rocked my world,’ he said, on new podcast Whimsically Volatile .‘I thought I just had a drug […]
Instragram and other social media means many of us live more open lives (Photo: Pixabay | rawpixel / 536 images | Public Domain) Last week we ran an article about a man who was coming out on social media as a ‘submissive bottom.’
In doing so, he wanted to assert his authentic identity and challenge stereotypes around muscular, African-American gay men. He made the posting on Instagram, wearing a jockstrap, fully aware that members of his family might see it.
Tired of being told how he should and shouldn’t behave, and having experienced great homophobia at the hands of some of his family, it was an act of self-empowerment .
I admire his courage and desire to prompt conversation that could help others.
I’m not looking to share my own bedroom preferences with the world, but then I’ve not lived his life experiences. However, it did stir up thoughts I’ve had knocking around in the back of my mind around Instagram. Your digital portrait
Some of these thoughts came into sharper focus over the weekend. I unexpectedly received a notification telling me an elderly aunt had begun to follow me on the platform.I don’t post any lewd images on my Instagram account. […]
Adam Rippon at the recent HRC dinner in Los Angeles (Photo: I’ve been pleasantly surprised by how the media and most of America have embraced openly – no, defiantly – gay figure skater Adam Rippon.
He’s a smart, funny, handsome proud gay man who embraces his inner ‘bitch’ (his words) and isn’t afraid to tell it. Watching him on shows like Ellen and The View, he pulls no punches: he is who he is. His gestures, voice and body language are uniquely his own.
He’s not trying to butch it up or make himself more accessible to the folks in small-town Ohio (where I’m from). ‘I’d hope I would be like that if I were gay’
I talked to some (straight, male) family members from Ohio. They wouldn’t normally find figure skating to be their cup of tea. Surprisingly, they liked Rippon, finding him: ‘Real’, ‘Honest’ and ‘Being himself, no matter what other people think.’
I wasn’t yet convinced that straight men would embrace him, so I tried one more group: my straight male friends.
Comments from this group were more ambivalent, but, still, Adam won out: ‘He’s awfully feminine, with all his sequins and stuff, but the guy is funny as […]
The bunny everyone’s talking about. | Photo: YouTube/LastWeekTonight In the world of children’s literature, there’s a bunny war happening.
During this week’s episode of Last Week Tonight, John Oliver did a segment on Vice President Mike Pence. The monologue mainly detailed Pence’s anti-LGBTI stances.
At the end, Oliver lamented how Pence ruined the only good thing about himself: his pet rabbit, Marlon Bundo aka BOTUS (Bunny of the United States).
However, Oliver wasn’t about to let the purity of Marlon Bundo go that easily. The Pence family released a children’s book all about Marlon Bundo, penned by Pence’s daughter and illustrated by his wife.
So Oliver and his creative team created their own children’s book about the rabbit, making him fall in love with another male rabbit.
The host swung by Ellen DeGeneres to talk about the book, which essentially trolls Pence but also donates money to pro-LGBTI causes like The Trevor Project. So who’s winning? Take one look at Amazon and it’s clear how well Oliver’s book, A Day in the Life of Marlon Bundo, is doing.For children’s books , the book has spots one (hardcover) and two (Kindle). Meanwhile, the Pence book, Marlon Bundo’s Day in the Life of the Vice […]
That view…. | Photo: Instagram @enriquealexgarde Talk about doing daring things for love. Traveler and filmmaker Enrique Alex recently went to Brazil and while there, took a shot of this very romantic — and dangerous — kiss.
The location is Pedra do Telégrafo on the south-eastern coast of Brazil and not far from Rio de Janeiro. It’s one of the most famous photo spots in the world for tourists and locals alike.
Offering stunning views of the ocean and terrain of Brazil, there can often be a line to get a picture on this particular rock. But the results can be worth it.
Just look at Alex’s shot. Enrique Alex and his partner kissing at Pedra do Telegrafo. | Photo: Instagram @enriquealexgarde Wow is right.
However, looks can be deceiving. In fact, the edge of the rock is only several feet away from the ground. Thanks to camera angles, though, it can look much more daring.
Here’s a shot of the cliff from a distance, showing the crowds, someone hanging off it, and what it all really is. Pedra do Telegrafo in Brazil. | Photo: Flickr/Valderes Sarnaglia Doesn’t make it any less amazing, of course. The world is a beautiful place Alex, who […]
Ben Carson giving a speech. | Photo: Wikimedia/Gage Skidmore On Tuesday (20 March), Housing and Urban Development Secretary Ben Carson appeared before a House subcommittee hearing.
At the hearing, he fielded questions about HUD’s removal of training to prevent LGBTI discrimination in homeless shelters. He specifically addressed transgender women in shelters dedicated to housing women.
llinois Democratic Rep. Mike Quigley asked the questions.
‘Remember it is complex,’ Carson said .
‘We obviously believe in equal rights for everybody, including the LGBT community. But we also believe in equal rights for the women in the shelters, and shelters where there are men, and their equal rights. So, we want to look at things that really provide for everybody and doesn’t impede the rights of one for the sake of the other.’
He continued by explaining that ‘some women were not comfortable with the idea of being in a shelter, being in a shower, and somebody who had a very different anatomy’.Carson added the agency’s counsel, who was confirmed in December, would help with this issue. He also offered to sit qith Quigley and the LGBTI community to figure out this situation. Concerning changes Last year, 29 Democratic senators penned a letter to Carson, asking […]