This is why it’s so important to have realistic gay sex in literature

This is why it’s important to have accurate gay sex in literature | Photo: Blake Mitchell As gay men, we often grow up without any real sex education whether it’s from school, film or literature.

The portrayals of our sexuality in media are often seldom, stereotyped, and based on a very narrow perspective.

In the past, I’ve spoken on Gay Star News about how not every gay man likes butt sex. nAlso, I’ve reminded people how there’s lots of other ways gay men can have sex other than anal

I seldom relate to the image of gay men and our sexuality portrayed in media.

This is why sex positive and all inclusive portrayals of our sexuality are all the more exciting when they happen. Jack of Hearts (And Other Parts)

Last year I was sent a novel called Jack of Hearts (And Other Parts).

The book follows Jack, a sexually active teen who becomes the victim of attempts to silence his personal expression. In between are blog posts that Jack writes, giving sex advice to the fellow kids at his school. Author LC Rosen told me that one of the things he wanted to do with the novel was show that there’s no right way to be gay.

That statement really stuck with me. Heteronormative narratives

People within and outside of our community often like to tell us how we’re meant to exist. This can be anything from how we dress to what we do in bed.

Maybe we’re too gay, or not gay enough.

Often times we’re obligated to fit into a heteronormative picture on relationships and sex, like being pressured to choose a position when it comes to butt sex.

Lev also told me many of the sex education questions that appear in the novel were actually taken from real teens and their questions about sex.

The advice in Jack of Hearts ranges from BDSM to butt sex. It’s the most holistic portrayal of gay sexuality that I have ever seen presented in gay media before. As a gay man myself who has often felt excluded from narratives about other gay men, it’s exciting to see a story that feels so inclusive of our sexuality and identity.

In an era when Love, Simon is seen as groundbreaking in its portrayal of gay identity on the big screen, many would say that we can stop there. Realistic gay sex in literature

Gay people are finally getting recognition, after all. But I want to push that boundary further. I want to challenge the portrayal of gay people in the media.

Why is most gay sex in the media portrayed as completely impersonal and butt sex centric? Why are we obligated to fit into a heteronormative structure of our own sexuality?

Media has a big obligation to start conversations rolling and break the taboos around sex.

If portrayals of gay sexuality were more positive in books, journalism, and the big screen, we might see perceptions of gay men start to change.

Two men can have sex facing one another, kissing, in intimate bliss – and yet many still associate our sexuality with impersonal, doggy style sex – and don’t get me wrong, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with the many different positions we can enjoy sex – but it would be amazing if we could see more diverse portrayals of our sexuality being presented to our own community and the outside world.

Everyone who chooses to write or film a story about gay sexuality has a great deal of influence and responsibility over how that story is told and the effect it has on our community and the perception of our community. See also

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